Second wind, anyone?

A formidable list of goals...

After realizing that the first two months of 2011 were over, I took a look through my list of goals for the year and realized that I really hadn’t been actively working on any of them. Some were naturally progressing (spending more time with friends rather than being a mere workaholic recluse), but others are just sitting on the shelf like an afterthought or an old, rather mundane memory.

I adamantly vowed that I would revitalize my yoga practice (you know, like do yoga again). I haven’t set foot in a studio but once this year. Getting to a conversational level in German, but haven’t cracked a book in months. Making at least one fantastic batch of beer, but to date I still don’t own the equipment. Oh, and that book I’m supposed to write this year. ha! Not even sure what it will be about.

What is it about goal-setting that ultimately fizzles out and leaves us back in our day-to-day routine? I wondered if maybe my goals were a bit too lofty, or perhaps didn’t hold enough “oomph.” But I’m passionate about helping others and volunteering more has taken the back-burner to things like sitting around and watching countless episodes of Mad Men (there’s a reason I haven’t watched TV in a while… so addictive).

I was reading a friend’s blog, Dina’s Days, and she was discussing the book, “It’s Never Too Late” by Patrick Lindsay (fabulous post that you really should check out). It reminded me that goals are often very dynamic, and just because I haven’t really started yet, there’s still plenty of time! It’s only March, after all. It’s never too late to do all of those things you said you were going to do. So do them! I’ll be starting today with one of the goals I’ve really been botching:

Severely limiting the amount of time I spend on the internet and Facebook.

Because it’s never too late to disconnect and really live your life, after all. Oh, and get thing’s done, too. Getting things done is good.

What are your goals for the year, and what are you doing to stay motivated to achieve them?

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Photo by John O’Nolan

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The Holidays in… Micronesia?

This is the island where I'll be staying.

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “What in the world is Micronesia, and more importantly, where in the world is it?” That’s what I thought when my loving boyfriend told me his sister was staying there as a Jesuit volunteer, teaching at a Catholic High School. I never imagined that I would actually be going there– but alas, my flight leaves (very) early Wednesday morning!

I will in fact be spending Christmas there– which will be my very first away from the States, and away from my family. I’m sad to say we didn’t put up a tree in the apartment (didn’t see a point given we’ll be gone til after New Years), we’ll miss the White Elephant gift exchange, and I won’t be baking unnecessary amounts of cookies with my mom. I am, however, quite happy to be spending it away from the multiple feet of snow that are currently lining the streets of my beloved city right now. I wont miss the crazy drivers, I wont miss the materialistic hubbub of the holiday season. I did only minimal shopping thus far, for said boyfriend’s sister– who only wanted a couple things (oddly enough including both Sister Act I and II… perhaps only those that live on tiny islands for long stretches of time really understand).

I’m not going to miss the deadlines, and the homework– the semester being quite thankfully over– nor am I going to miss the noise.

I looked up at the sky the other day and saw a few stars… then I realized at once that where I’ll be, light pollution is not a problem. Intestinal parasites and boils, yes. But not light pollution. I’m not going to have my cell phone. I’ll bring my laptop, but as the internet is so severely limited on the island, its use will likely be for uploading the million photos I take documenting every single minute on our trip. There will be no Facebook (okay, I may sneak on once if I get the chance). There will be no Twitter. There will be no checking of my email literally ever three minutes.

I’m not sure I’ll know what to do with myself, to be honest.

Okay, so that’s not true. I’m bringing a ton of books. I’m also going to bring my sketchbook and pencils/charcoal. I’m going to bring my fresh, new Moleskine journal for the New Year. I start a new journal the first of every year. It’s a bit wasteful, I know. But I like feeling like it’s really a new beginning, and laying out my year’s goals at the beginning.

I’m hoping this trip will help me to find some simplicity in life, and help me shape my goals accordingly. I think I get a bit too bogged down with all of the busy-ness of life. I’ll always remain a busy person– with deadlines, and homework, and upcoming events. It’s how I enjoy living. But some of the wiredness, some of the superficial connectedness that we engage in every day seems a bit unnecessary. Perhaps if I take the time to disconnect from the worldwide web, I’ll have more time and energy to connect with the worldwide world.

That’s just my two-cents. Til then, I’ll be frantically trying to pack, clean, and otherwise prepare for my departure. I bid you all a wonderful holiday, and I’ll catch you all next year!

P.S. Micronesia is a group of islands in the Pacific Ocean near Guam (in case you haven’t already Googled and are still wondering).

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Visit here to learn a bit about Micronesia!

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Here are a few books I’ll be bringing for the (36 hour) flight:

Welcome to the Urban Revolution by Jeb Brugmann

The Complete Joy of Homebrewing by Charlie Papazian

The End of Poverty by Jeffrey Sachs

The Serpent and the Rainbow by Wade Davis

The Sex Lives of Cannibals by J. Maarten Troost

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Photo courtesy of Blatant World

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The Key to Success: Setting Goals

In my experience, it can be incredibly difficult to stay motivated—whether that is motivation to do well on an assignment, find more work, or just get out of bed in the morning. There are different forms of motivation. When I was in basic training (as yes, I am a shining member of the Army National Guard) my motivation came in the form of screaming drill sergeants. I was forced to motivate myself to do a variety of things. There were two distinct patterns this motivation took at that time:

1. Saying to myself, “well, I don’t really have a choice in the matter. I have to do it right this time because there is no way I want to go through it again.

2. I would continue to run laps, thinking about how delicious those pancakes were going to be at breakfast (despite the fact I rarely got more than three minutes to enjoy them).

Though both seemed to be effective for that particular situation, when it comes to motivating myself in terms of my freelancing career, the latter most certainly wins out. I am what some people refer to as a workaholic. My poor boyfriend can attest that I spend way more time working than the average person. When he pleads with me to relax a little, however, I respond that I have goals that I’m working toward. I certainly don’t enjoy spending the better part of my free time typing away, but the fact of the matter is that I’m nowhere close to where I want to be in my career, and though money is certainly not everything, it sure means a lot when you’re a college student neck-deep in debt wanting to travel the world.

Goal-setting isn’t just about saying, “Oh, I want to do great things,” however. You have to be explicit, and you have to be reasonable. Because I am a neurotic list-maker, this comes rather natural to me. It is quite simple, though, to set simple goals for yourself—be them short-term, long-term, or both. I prefer both. My incredibly short-term goals stand in form as a To-Do list. It is more or less a list of assignments and errands needing run. The minute I finish this blog post, I will cross one more item off of the list. I don’t know about you, but when I am able to cross something off, I feel a great wave of accomplishment and empowerment take over and I tend to feel even more motivated to start on other tasks.

Making lists of goals is also a great way to stay focused and organized. It is easy to forget that you had to do something or the other. It is also easy to say, “I’m going to try and bolster my freelancing career” with no logical plan for how to accomplish this. My goals tend to be a bit more pointed. For instance, one of my goals for this year is to obtain a job or internship that is either socially meaningful or related to my academic area of study (namely, Sociology). My plan of action in this case is to search, search, search. It is also to write, write, write. As I use this website (and my freelancing career) as a platform for making change, finding more meaningful assignments is another step I take in this direction.

Goals can be used in every area of your life—be it in a professional sense, a financial sense, or even in terms of personal improvement. The one piece of advice that I give anyone I come across is to be introspective. Many of us are unsatisfied with our lives or ourselves in some capacity. I feel this is natural and favorable if understood the correct way. Visualize the kind of person you want to be and the life you want to live. Write it out. If you want to take this in terms of your business, do it that way as well. You may imagine yourself or your business to be more successful, more socially conscious, or less wasteful, etc. Whatever it is, put it down. When finished, note the discrepancies between who you are now and who you want to be. You now have goals and are ready to create an action plan.

I’m all about action. So I find that setting goals that are not actionable seems to be a bit asinine and unrealistic. Just saying, “I want to be a better person” or “I want to make more money” is great, but not actionable. Understand why you want to achieve these goals, and how you will do so. When it comes to motivation for freelance writing, my goals tend to fall into a few different categories:

1. Money. We all want to make more of it, but I remind myself that I need to make more money to achieve my goals, which this year are to pay of my credit card and take a vacation over Christmas.

2. Impact. I remind myself that in order to change the world, I need to act. I believe just as much as the next person that ideas and visions are beautiful things, but in order to really make a difference you need to do. So I write more.

3. Pride. When I say pride, I mean so in a healthy way. I’m a person attempting to work toward a greater level of independence, and in many ways my freelancing career is a direct show of what I have built for myself. Be proud of what you have accomplished. You worked for it and built it yourself.

I’m sure I could ramble on for longer about goals and how great they are (because they really are!) but I think you’ve got enough to start making your own goals. Just remember to keep them close by. I like to write mine down and keep them somewhere visible. These will help you stay focused and motivated. And remember than when it feels like you just cant do any more, there is always a drill sergeant out there that could make you do just a teensy bit more.

My last point? Don’t forget to take a breather! Hard work is great, but you have to take time to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Cheers, everyone!

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